Tell me this, have you ever in your life felt completely stuck? Maybe everything seems great and it makes no logical sense that you have this restless feeling inside of you because from the outside looking in, life looks good. People would say you are successful and have a great life but internally something is off.
I think we’ve all been there at one point or another… so first know that you are not alone in saying “yes” to this.
But today I want to talk a little bit about what keeps us stuck so I can help you shift your perception of this and get ahead of it.
To start I want to ask you a couple of questions, and I really want you to think about these questions and let them sink in.
What is your perception of yourself?
What do you believe to be true about yourself and your life?
What do you really believe you are capable of?
What is your self image?
I ask this because our beliefs about who we are and what we believe is possible for ourselves is everything in our lives.
We will literally self-sabotage ourselves if we feel things are getting too good…. If we feel we don’t deserve the positive things happening to us, we will create chaos in our lives to keep us from reaching those next positive steps.
You’re probably thinking this sounds a little silly why would I do that?
Our beliefs are rooted in things that happened in our lives far before we could make decisions for ourselves. It all starts when we’re really young. When we were children.
When our mom first smiled when we laughed. We were programed to think that if we did certain things, we would evoke certain reactions in others.
Then, as we get older, we start to put a lot of pressure on these external factors. They influence what we believe our worth is and what we are capable of. And society tells us certain things we are “supposed to do” in life in order to be “successful.”
Then somewhere along the way, we take all of this information society throws at us and we pull it into our own belief system which we use as our own, inner navigational system.
So our beliefs are actually subconsciously programed in our minds based on things that have happened in our lives , which puts us almost on autopilot. From there the the actions we take, the success we work towards, and the happiness we allow into our life is all filtered based on what we believe at our core we deserve.
SO if you want to get to a point where you are ready to take your life to the next level, to reach your full potential, to experience abundance, happiness, success, and fulfillment…. A true, whole happy life….
You have to start by looking at your beliefs.
Figuring out the lies you have believed to be true about yourself. And determine whether or not these lies are serving you.
They may have up until this point because they did help you get to where you are now, to the success you do have now… but if you want to get to that next level… if you want to move past that place of “stuck ” -> You have to start by asking yourself what you believe is true and what you believe is possible for yourself.
And then, you have to know that self doubt, grief, fear, it will try it’s hardest to keep you stuck. It will do everything it can to pull you away from everything your heart truly desires and everything you are capable of. It’s your own sneaky way of having some control over your own disappointment in life.
We self-sabotage because deep down we feel like we don’t deserve it. But even more than that, we self sabotage because we fear our own potential.
We fear everything that comes with stepping into your full potential… change, growth and unknown.
But here is what I want you to know… while yes that can be scary, allowing yourself to step into your true potential… that is where you start to change your life.
So look at your belief system, look at your self image, figure out what lies you are telling yourself and allow yourself to let go of the ones that are no longer serving you so you can step into your full potential and live your best life.
I love helping women overcome this feeling of being stuck. If this is something you are currently struggling with, you would be a great match for my Clarify your Calling program launching in January! Sign up to be notified of course progress at the link below. I would love to have you!
XO
Nicole
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